3 Troubling Signs That You're Overwhelmed and Need A Life Coach
So you're struggling to commit to yourself. You find it hard to focus on yourself, let alone try and build a life that includes dating, socializing, work, and self-care. You find that you're stressed out more often than not. There's never enough time to do anything but work, and when you do have free time, you'd rather do nothing but sit. You have goals and dreams, but you can't help but think about everything that won't allow you to achieve them. If this sounds like you, you may need a life coach.
A life coach helps you to organize your thoughts and feelings to create and execute a successful and well balanced life. We do this by offering you space, time, and support in mapping out your dream life and identifying and addressing any barriers that limit your ability to achieve it. Most people think that life coaches are like therapists, and while we do listen to your issues, we do NOT have the power to diagnose and treat mental illnesses. Think of us like your high school coach and guidance counselor rolled into one. We're going to give you space to dump and then give you the reality of what we notice is hindering your progress.
This can show up as patterns that no longer serve you, beliefs that limit your ability to broaden your horizons, or even emotional blocks. Our job, as your coach, is to help you see what's going on and begin to maneuver around those issues to create and execute a workable plan to exceed your goals. We work closely with therapists that can provide coping mechanisms and other tools that make it much easier to navigate life in a more confident way. We work with you to create a plan of action, make sure it's realistic, and then hold you accountable of completing your plan with a touch of tough love when needed.
Now, how do you know you need a life coach, and can they really help you achieve your goals?
1.) You Feel Uncomfortable Being Yourself
Now this doesn't necessarily mean overall. It may show up in certain parts of your life. Say you feel confident in business as long as you know and understand your job, but you feel awkward in social settings outside of work. Or maybe you've always wanted to learn to sing, but you're too afraid to sing in front of anyone to ever take lessons. These are examples of feeling uncomfortable with yourself. The funny thing is, we all have something about us that make us feel uncomfortable about ourselves whether it be speaking, the way we look, how we interact with others, or how we feel when we're alone. If you've always wanted to do something but have been too afraid to actually do it, a coach can help you navigate through that process and motivate you towards incorporating that new skill into your life.
2.) You Feel Overwhelmed and Anxious Often
Often times we go through life with a normal routine that's out of whack and not conducive to our full expression. That means we focus on some parts but totally ignore others and it causes us to be overwhelmed or really anxious when attempting to make changes. We may eat, sleep, go to work, pick up the kids, grab dinner, and go home to sit on the couch/talk on the phone/watch tv but the thought of doing anything outside of that causes us anxiety or seems flat out impossible. We couldn't fathom adding one more thing on the list without blowing up and causing a scene. Often time this is due to the lack of vision and inability to organize, problem solve, and readjust. Hell, even self-care can sound impossible if you haven't given yourself space to think about how it's possible. Get you a life coach and let them help you figure it out.
3.) Something Inside You Won't Let You Be Great
You know that little voice that tells you all the reasons you can't do something or something won't work out? Those are what we call "limiting beliefs" and they are out to kill, steal, and destroy your joy. Often times they show up when you say you want to do something and a friend or family member starts offering suggestions on how to make it possible. You find that the little voice in your head has now transformed into yours and is spewing all the reasons you'll fail. Sometimes it even comes with anger and frustration projected at the person trying to offer you support which can cause relational issues and even burn bridges. A life coach can help you to identify where those beliefs come from and help you to replace them with new beliefs through practice. You know, that thing you often hate to do because it requires discipline. Your coach is there to whip you into shape.
4.) You Don't Know How to Get to the Next Level
You've been killing it so far but you're getting stuck and don't know where to go next. You have ideas but nothing's flushed out and you're starting to feel like the world is closing in on you. It's time to shed the small life you're used to and be free like a beautiful butterfly emerging from the confines of it's cocoon. You need to upgrade your life, move on from a job and start your own business, purge and buy new things, move in a different direction. In other words, you need to transition but you don't know where to start or how to make it happen. A coach will help you develop a plan and flush it out until it's realistic to you and help you execute. If your coach holds expertise in business or marketing they can help you formulate your skills and talents into a business that will mesh well with the lifestyle of your choice. So if you're feeling like a tree and don't know what to do next, get you a coach and quit playing yourself.
All in all, there are many reasons in addition to these few that you might benefit from working with a coach. A good coach will tell you their specialty, rates, and establish a style of coaching that fits your needs prior to taking you on as a client. If you thought that a coach was like a therapist, you'd be wrong because a therapist helps with managing psychosocial aspects of a person whereas a coach helps you create and execute a plan to achieve your selected goals. If you're feeling stressed, anxious, uncomfortable, stuck, or lost then working with a coach will help offer you clarity and drive to get things done in a way that works for your best interest. They won't force you, but they will push you until the results you seek are in your grasp. If the person that I described in this post sounds like you, don't stress because you're already in the right place. Feel free to contact me for a free discover call to see how you can start your journey to a well balanced life, brand new business, or the next level of your boss bio! Call me at 219-281-2613 or email me at email@example.com and give yourself an incentive to live your deepest dreams.